“Show respect to people who don’t even deserve it; not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours.”
One of the most important things I’ve ever learned is that life goes on. People leave, relationships change, and things you loved become less fun. Parties end, seasons end, lives end. But good things happen too. It’s give and take, we lose and gain, things change for better and worse. We just have to accept and trust in that.
the other day my grandma told me, “when you and him are fighting, you both need to remember that it’s you two vs. the problem, not you vs. him.” and that hit me hard
“Sometimes you meet someone, and it’s so clear that the two of you, on some level belong together. As lovers, or as friends, or as family, or as something entirely different. You just work, whether you understand one another or you’re in love or you’re partners in crime. You meet these people throughout your life, out of nowhere, under the strangest circumstances, and they help you feel alive. I don’t know if that makes me believe in coincidence, or fate, or sheer blind luck, but it definitely makes me believe in something.”
— Unknown (via bl-ossomed)
“8 things I learned by the age of 18: 1. Everything takes time. Whether it’s getting over someone, making a change or finishing something, it takes time. And that’s okay. We’re always in a hurry and we forget to appreciate or even just accept the process. 2. Other people are not the answer. You may think others can heal you or make you feel better, which they might. However, in the end it’s up to you. Learn how to love yourself instead of waiting for someone else to do it. 3. Grow. Never stop working on yourself, on things you’re passionate about, or on your future. Grow into the person you want to become - even if you’re not sure who that is. 4. The more that you wait, the more time that you waste. Don’t keep telling yourself “you’ll do it tomorrow”. Now is now and who knows what happens tomorrow. 5. Often, people are temporary. Accept it. It hurts, it’s unfair, but sometimes friendships end or people leave. Treasure every moment you have with someone rather than being afraid it could end. 6. Some days will suck and it’s okay. Find peace in the days you’re feeling sad, find peace in being bored. Without having bad days, good days wouldn’t be as good. 7. Don’t let anyone determine who you are. Only you decide which way you’re going, only you decide what you wear and only you decide what you want to be like. Don’t let anyone take that right away from you. 8. Change is inevitable. No matter if it’s positive or negative, change is one of the few things you can always rely on. Don’t fear it, but feel reassured - you won’t live the same life all along.”
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But I just wanted her in my life. I had fallen in love, even if she was still finding her way.
‘I’m your girl,’ she said in the dark. ‘Your girl. No matter what I’m always your girl.’
There she was, at 4am, in your bed. You loved her then, didn’t you? She was wearing your duvet like a cape, with her head poking out. She loved you back; she really did.
You said, “I don’t know what to do. I’ve never met anyone like you.”
She said simply, “kiss me.”
So you did. You lifted her chin and kissed her mouth and swallowed her giggles whole. You felt her sunshine fill your lungs as she wrapped her arms around your neck. You felt the duvet fall as she leant forward.
“Tell me a secret,” she said.
She was always saying these things.
“I’ve told you everything already,“ you said. Your lips were on her neck.
“Tell me a secret,” she repeated.
“Okay,” you sighed, “I love you.”
“Tell me a secret.“
“I’ve always loved you.”
S. Zhao (via blossomfully)
If someone wants to be apart of your life they’ll make it happen. Actions speak louder than words and at some point you’ll get tired of justifying their actions. You deserve love where you receive as much as you give. If someone isn’t willing to work towards that kind of love then it’s okay to leave them. Remember that you are worth more than second thoughts and “maybes”.
It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self-love deficit.